Hello from beautiful Montana:

Yep, it is true. Every single worry, thought or stress is somehow connected to the big three:

  • Money
  • Health
  • Relationships

What is uppermost in your mind today?  Is it money, as in how are we going to pay  the mortgage? What if I lose my job?  Do we buy new tires or replace the washing machine?

Is it health as in how long can we last without insurance? Is this bump on my neck a pimple or cancer? Are my children feeling okay, what if it is more than the flu? Dieting is so much easier for skinny people cause they don't get as hungry as I do.

Is it relationships, as in what did he mean by that look? How can I stand that annoying coworker one more day? What will I do when my pet dies? I think my boss hates my work and is just waiting for a chance to fire me.

Or, if we are truly human we try to combine Money, Health and Relationships  into one worry which  covers all the bases.

  • How can our parents pay for health care when their pension plan is in the dumps?
  • What if my coworker tells our boss that I am looking at her funny and he fires me and I lose my health insurance and have to live under the bridge.
  • The reason that our teenager isn't speaking to me is because he has some dread disease and we will have to sell the house to earn money to pay for research and he probably won't let me help him because  he says "You freak out over everything Mom. Get a life"

Yikes, am I the only one out there who worries about worst case scenarios that never happen?Sometimes when I get into that Mother's Martyr worrying about things that really are not my business now that the children are gone, I read some wisdom.

If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.
 ~E. Joseph Cossman

I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love and
abundance.  Then, whenever doubt, anxiety or fear try to call me, they
keep getting a busy signal – and soon they'll forget my number.  ~Edith

Worrying is like a rocking
chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere.  ~Glenn

People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are
attached to them. 

~George Bernard Shaw, "Family Affection," Parents
and Children, 1914

Okay friends, how about we give up the negative thoughts and worries about Money, Health and Relationships for 2009.  Let's stop trying to control God, the Politicians, our kids and co-workers. Let's agree to stand back and let life flow. 

Worrying won't bring us money, health or respectful relationships but putting positive thoughts into positive actions and expecting positive results will.

Here is to a new year filled with good thoughts, things and experiences.

In Gratitude,

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship coach and author


Ps:  Keep your eyes peeled for a new series of Life Education books by Judy H. Wright to be listed on Amazon…..Wahoo

Money, Health and Relationships-What we Stress and Worry About Every Day