Hello from beautiful Montana.

Perky Personality, positive attitude, Perpetually happy?  Is that how others see me?  Well, it is not true, by a long shot.

When a friend commented that I seemed more pensive and less perky than usual, she was actually a little annoyed that I could be down in the dumps, concerned or even doubting my self.

It is important that you and she know that no matter how confident you are, life has bumps and disappointments and down days.  You have a right to a self-pity party occasionally.

Law of Attraction or Law of Whatever

No matter what the Law of Attraction Gurus say;  You can't always think happy thoughts. And if you worry that a cranky thought today will result in adverse reactions tomorrow, you can drive yourself crazy with guilt.

Some Reasons for Self Doubt

  • Things are not working out as we planned.
  • Life is harder than we thought.
  • Some people lie and cheat and steal and we "should" have known.
  • Our hormones make us vulnerable.
  • Medications interact and cause side effects of delusional thoughts
  • We fall back into old habits of seeing others in the best of lights and us in the worst of lights.
  • We forget to count our blessing and recognize how far we have come and how much we have accomplished so far.

Overcome Self Doubt

  • Get off your butt and do something. Anything, even cleaning out a drawer.  But finish it completely.  Unfinished projects eat away at your mind and confidence.  It does not have to be perfect, it has to be done.
  • Stop thinking about yourself so much and focus on helping someone else. Go to the food pantry and stock shelves or drop off a bag of rice.
  • Don't take everything personally.  Really and truly, the world, God and the Universe is not out to get you.  You are an important part of the universe, but not the center.  Most people are way too focused on their own problems to judge you and yours.
  • Laugh. Giggle. Smile.  I dare you to smile for three minutes (the time of a song on the radio) and still think negative thoughts.
  • Remember, as Shakespeere or Gomer Pyle or Confusious or somebody smart said: "The rain falls on the just and the unjust"  And as my grandson says "crap happens sometimes. Doesn't mean you are crap."

I love you and just writing this made me feel better.  Of course I have been smiling for three minutes because I know you are too.

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship coach and author

PS: Keep an eye on http.www.ArtichokePress.com   We are about to schedule new teleclasses.

Self Doubt-Lack of Confidence