Hello from beautiful Montana:
As caring adults(either by DNA or friendship) we want to create a safe and nurturing space in order to build strong family relationships. We also want the kind of family relationship where each child is a connected child within the family.
Here are a few ideas we have used in our family and have been suggested by other close families in my parenting classes. Use these ideas as springboards to decide what can enhance the relationships and build a strong family.
- Create an home environment where feelings can be shared This means that we give names to our emotions and not just feel mad, sad and glad. Even anger is an appropriate emotion at times. We need to continually be learning methods of expressing feelings without hurting others.
- Spend Time with the Kids The idea of quality time is over used. What kids want is just your time. They want you there completely when you are there. If you can only spare 15 minutes to play Candy Land, then be present for the whole time. Be involved in their activities with them.
- Be Open and Approachable With All Members of the Family Make an effort to be nonjudgmental and to listen to all sides of the story. Many parents just want to be “right.” For every situation there are at least five solutions so listen to your kids, they may teach you something.
- Let The Family Know That Love is Unconditional You may be disappointed at what they did, but are never disappointed with them as individuals. Make sure everyone knows that your emotional support and love are not tied to accomplishments, looks or achievements. We love each other in spite of…not because of.
Good luck in building strong family relationships. Trust me it is worth the effort to bind your tribe, family and group into a solid foundation of love and support.
I have confidence in you. If you would like more information on raising responsible children please go to:
Fondly, Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker