Hello from Montana:
What constitutes respect for others? Is being respectful the key to healthy relationships? Do you have to like someone to be considerate, kind and courteous? How do you work in a relationship where there is an uneven balance of power? Even if you disagree with someone can you respect their rights?
Several years ago there was a study done of 100 self made millionaires. They ranged in age from young 19 to well over 70. Their educational experiences extended from grade school to the Ph.D level. They differed in almost all characteristics, except they were all found to be respectful of other people.
Everyone Can Learn and Teach
They had determined early in their careers that everyone had something to teach and to share. They built respectful relationships by learning from others. Even those who do not believe as you do, or look like you or speak like you, still have something to share and should be given the right to share in some way.
We tend to treat people like we see them. If we see them as arrogant, snooty or even shy, we tend to treat them in that manner. I just did a radio show recently about a second chance at making a good first impression. You will want to listen to that one, if you haven’t already.
Live Up to Expectations
Once you find the good or ability in other people you treat him or her better and thus they perform better. We all tend to live up to the expectations of other people. I have seen children who were average students with one teacher and then become top producers with encouragement and acceptance.
If we see people worthy of respect, then we will treat them that way. Even when they do not demonstrate their respect for us, we can still treat them with courtesy.
A quote that I love says “If you take a man as he is, you make him worse than he was, but if you see him as being the best person possible, then he, in fact, become the best person possible.”
Courage To Keep Trying
Encouragement is giving someone the courage to keep progressing on an upward road, to move ahead and to fulfill their destiny. By giving respect and understanding to others in our relationship, we will all move forward. A life journey is seldom without some failure, or detours. When we can acknowledge the progress and respect the effort as well as the individual, we will have a better world.
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Thanks for sharing your time with me today,
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker