Focus Attention on the Learning Experience
When parents and other caregivers focus on the finished products, it does not encourage the child to be a problem solver. If only perfectly made beds are acceptable, then why keep trying because perfection is not possible.
Trail and error is a great teacher. Logical and natural consequences help children learn much more than one more lecture on how to do “my way.”
If the soccer uniform does not get in the laundry, then the child will have to wear a stained shirt to the game. Questions such as “What did you learn from this experience today?” or even “Given how this turned out for you, what do you think you could do next time?”
Next Time….
As you help the child evaluate, plan for the next time and encourage them to problem solve on their own, you will be adding to the core of confidence.
By stressing that failure is never final and we are all on a learning curve, you will be giving them permission to start over.
Who Owns the Problem?
If you and your child have agreed on chores and responsiblity and you keep bugging and reminding, you still own the problem. Why should he remember when he knows from experience that you will keep nagging.
Even if you get mad, that is still attention and interaction with you, so it is not all bad.
In Kids, Chores and More you will learn to not only work together to divide up the chores, but what the consequences are for not doing your job. When the expections are clear, you no longer have to be the referee and judge.
Generally your child wants to please you and for everyone to do their share. Sometimes, the task is too overwhelming and it is easier to give up.
Perhaps you feel that way about teaching your child to assume personal responisilbity. It is overwhelming, but possible. Especially with the assistance and guidance of the parents located at Kids,Chores and More.
Get it today. It will be an investment in your families harmony and the future of your child.
Focus Attention on the Learning Experience
When parents and other caregivers focus attention on the finished product, rather than the learning experience, it does not encourage the child to be a problem solver. If only perfectly made beds are acceptable, then why keep trying because perfection is not possible.
Trail and Error is a Great Teacher
Logical and natural consequences help children learn much more than one more lecture on how to do “my way.” Part of being a mature responsible adult is seeing cause and effect.
If the soccer uniform does not get in the laundry, then the child will have to wear a stained shirt to the game. Questions such as “What did you learn from this experience today?” or even “Given how this turned out for you, what do you think you could do next time?”
Next Time….
As you help the child evaluate, plan for the next time and encourage them to problem solve on their own, you will be adding to their core of confidence. They will also gain a sense of independence when they don’t rely on others to judge their work and worth.
By stressing that failure is never final and we are all on a learning curve, you will be giving them permission to start over.
Raising Responsible Children may seem overwhelming to you, especially if you don’t know the way. However, it is possible and doable with the assistance and guidance of the parents located a http://www.KidsChoresAndMore.com
Get it today. It will be an investment in your families harmony and the future of your child.
In support and confidence,
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker
