Hello from beautiful Montana:
Has your shyness and lack of confidence held you back in relationships
or on the job? Do you wish you were more assertive? Would you like to overcome shyness and be more outgoing? Perhaps I can offer a few encouraging words to assist you in this journey.
Shyness is a Behavior
Many people assume that being shy or being bossy are both in born parts of a baby’s personality. Actually, confidence is a learned skill and practiced behavior. It is much like learning to play the piano, or ride a bike. It takes some time to develop and incorporate this new skill into your life.
In order to gain self confidence and be more assertive in your life you need a mentor to show you the steps and then you need to practice daily.
When You Know Better You Do Better
If you are not comfortable with how you view yourself, perhaps you need to expand your viewpoint as well as your knowledge base. If you learn to overcome shyness you will be able to push back the walls of a cubicle as well as your mindset.
Liking and being comfortable with your self image does not happen overnight. Throughout your life you received some powerful messages about you are from parents, peers and co-workers. But the most powerful influence is your own self-talk and negative thought patterns.
Stop Negative Thinking
Replace the tapes of negative self-talk and replace it with positive thinking and action. Make a decision to overcome shyness by encouraging yourself with affirmations. Say yes to yourself and your goals.
You were drawn to this specific article because you are at a crossroads in your life. You can either continue with actions, behaviors and thoughts that have not served you well, or you can make a conscious choice to step out of the past and into the future you deserve.
Encourage Yourself With Wise Choice of Words
Instead of… “I have always been shy” say “I choose to smile at three new people today.”
Instead of …”I am intimidated by crowds” say “I will find one person and start a conversation with them.”
Instead of …”I am such a loser” say “”I have done at least 20 things right today. I am going to count them.”
Instead of …”I don’t know what to say” consider “I will smile and comment on the weather to a co-worker.”
Building Self Confidence
Overcoming shyness is not an easy task, but it can be done. I have done it and so can you. I have confidence in you and your dream. Please take these encouraging words and know that I mean them from my heart.
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and motivational speaker
PS: If you would like more assistance to build confidence, please see http://www.confidenceclues.com