We teach people how to treat us by allowing them to step on our boundaries and hurt our feelings. This is an excellent article about the 4 steps to setting boundaries in a firm, kind voice that sends a message of how we want to be treated. For more information, please go to http://artichokepress.com which has a full listing of books, videos, e-learning and articles to enhance family relationships and build strong, resilient family members.
Parenting is a big job. Learn from other successful families and guide your children to be self sufficient, responsible adults. If you were in a dysfunctional situation, ask for help on setting boundaries and healthy discipline methods.