Hello from beautiful Montana:
We recently showed a rental property to a family searching for adequate and affordable housing. The mother turned to the child and said “what do you think darling, should we rent this house.” The child shook his head and yelled NO at the top of his lungs.
Of course that is what most two year old children do. I was grateful they took the advice of their child (gimmee a break, people) and decided to keep looking. It was pretty evident who wore the pants or diapers in that family.
Responsibility of Parent is to Lead
Many parents try too hard to be friends with their children rather than parents to them. It is good to have a family where all members can be heard and acknowledged, but the parents job is to lead, teach and guide children.
It is actually scary to a child to realize that the power has shifted and he is in charge of the situation. He, rightfully so, expects the adults to protect him and keep him safe. Firm, kind and loving discipline may not always seem like the most popular parental obligation. However, it is much more important to the child’s development than having another buddy to play with.
Children Should Challenge Authority
It is perfectly normal child development to test the limits, push the buttons and challenge authority. Our job as parents and caring adults is to establish boundaries and assist them in learning personal responsibility. The best lessons are learned through natural or logical consequences.
Assume Parental Leadership
The most secure children and confident adults have parents who recognized that family life was not a popularity contest but they were loved and protected.
You can’t lead and guide a child’s development by seeking his approval constantly. You don’t want to say “Sweetheart, are you ready for bed? It’s time for beddy by, okay? You are opening up for arguing, whining and negotiation.
Instead simply make an announcement “It’s time for bed.”
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Have a great day with your children and remember you are the parent.
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker
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